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Labels? Just peel them off!

I'm not a huge fan of labels. I feel sometimes we allow labels to define us too much and often they end up being a handicap instead of what makes us unique, strong, and individual. I have been labeled over the years by others,maybe you have labels too. These are often the words people use to describe you.
Some of mine are:

Follow the Rules

I am a rule follower by nature. Maybe its part of my Obsessive Compulsive personality traits, but in general I follow the rules. They make me feel safe. I feel secure when I believe that everyone plays by the same set of rules I do. Rules of society, of humanity, and of common cutesy come second nature to me.

When I was a child I was terrified of breaking rules. I feared the unknown and known consequences. I lived in fear of crossing any lines and lived in a state of confinement defined by those I believed to be in authority. I believed that everyone lived by the same set of rules.

 Eventually I realized that people broke rules around me ALL the time. I realized that some rules were silly. Some rules I had for my behavior or others didn't always apply to every situation. I learned that sometimes rules could be bent slightly.

I learned that rules are not the restraints that others put upon us, but the boundaries we create for ourselves. Boundaries we set in our behavior, way of thinking, and attitudes that help us define ourselves and maintain the life we want to lead.

“I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.” 

Been a while

Been a while since I posted on this blog... ugh.... its like a diary that you write in once and forget in a drawer somewhere. I guess the best I can do is write when I can. With school and work and boys and love life it is hard to find time. Its been another year! Big changes happened this year- My divorce was final...finally! I collected 6 more college credits. I met a boy and am dating him. The boys grew and are successful and happy. This year went by fast and we made lots of fun memories.


Ovid's The Art of Love or Dating 101

Ovid was called the last great Roman poet of the Augustan golden age of literature. Ovid‘s The Art of Love can still teach men today a lot about courting women and love. In fact his advise would make a great Dating 101 book for men. He starts off by telling men to have confidence in their ability to win a women. We all know that confidence can be very attractive. He goes on to advise men to get to know his sweethearts friends and get to know about her through them. Girls always love a man that can hang out with her friends comfortably and who shows interest in her life. Ovid then instructs his pupil’s to send the girl a letter or in todays society perhaps a text message or email. He tells them to send her nice thoughts and compliments. Everyone loves to be complimented and given attentions, so its sound advice.  If that doesn’t work, Ovid tells the reader to not give up and try again. Persistence usually does get you noticed in the world of dating or the label “creepy guy”. Ovid encourages the young lover to make sure he looks good and smells good. This is the best advice yet to attracting true love or at least get a second date. Ovid wisely goes on to tell men to not get so drunk that they can't carry on a conversation with the girl of their dreams. Its great advice for both men and women, one glass of wine is great for courage and inhibition, but five might make for a night of regret.  He instructs men to never stop giving out compliments and sweet words to women. This little bit of advice would probably save many relationships from ending because its hard to find fault with a man giving you compliments constantly.  Although the last bit of Ovid’s advice on showing your date some emotion is legitimate, his advice on faking tears if you have to is a little overkill. Most women think its sweet to see their man tear up over his feelings for you or a chick flick but it’s manipulative to fake emotions. Ovid’s artful courting advice is still universally applicable today for winning over that special girl.

Work Cited:
Spielvogel, Jackson J. Western Civilization, To 1715. 8ed. V1. Boston, MA: Wadsworth Pub Co, 2011.

M & M Thank you Labels for Fun Size M & M packages

Here are some fun thank you labels to put on the Fun Sized M & M packages.

Proud Mama

Josef (16) was struggling in an online highschool program. We moved him to Frank Church Highschool and hoped he could make up the lost credits for his first se mester of 10th grade. He is doing awesome now! He is passing all his classes. Wohoo!

Late Winter Hike- Hyatt Hidden Lakes Reserve

I went for a little hike around Hyatt Hidden Lakes Reserve at 

5301 N Maple Grove Rd, Boise, ID 83704

I snapped a few photos for fun.